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Grounding energy in chaos

My 18 month old daughter Estrella woke up this morning at 3:30 am, and then refused to take a nap until well after her regular nap time that afternoon.

“What on earth could be happening?” My husband and I wondered. We then realized that on top of the normal-for-her-age teething pain, she could be feeling the effects of the looming full moon eclipse.

Some studies have supported the notion that the full moon wreaks havoc on our sleep schedules. Add an eclipse to the mix and no wonder little Estrella was all hyped up.

What to do?

We focused on grounding and calming our own energy to help support her ability to relax and get the nap she so desparately needed. Shortly after we used the following tools she fell into a deep sleep and napped for almost two and a half hours (twice her normal nap length).

Since the energy of the January 20th eclipse and full moon could affect you all week, I thought I’d share what we did so you can use these tools too.

Sing

I began singing a repetitive simple song. Some of you may recognize this popular healing verse that balances the four elements and especially connects to the earth element.

“Earth my body, water my blood, air my breath and fire my spirit”

Here is an absolutely gorgeous adaptation of this song on Youtube.

Visualize

Most of us are more focused upwardly, in our heads. I like to visualize that my body has a “root” or tail or that travels deep into the earth. I then imagine the energy from the heavens connects through me to this earthly root, and I am strongly centered in the middle, both grounded and spiritually connected. Children as young as 3 or 4 years old can be guided in this visualization, and when they are younger, simply do it yourself to benefit them.

Warm beverages and food


Warm chamomile tea with milk and honey, stabilizing and nourishing foods (with added healthy fat if your body can handle that) and limiting caffeine help me stay calm and centered amidst chaotic energy from any source.

“Get into your body” any way that works for you


Gentle yoga, dance, sitting meditation, a weighted blanket, a massage .. the possibilities are endless. What works for you? I gently massaged my daughter’s legs and feet to help her feel embodied. Sometimes a warm bath also does the trick. Gardening can also be an amazing way to feel grounded, especially when you do it barefoot!

The sky’s the limit

Use your intuition to find the best ways to help you and your family ground and center whenever life throws a curveball (or an eclipse) your way. Trust your inner guidance, and your growing awareness of what feels good, to inspire you!

What feels Good? (not this)

What feels Good? (not this)

What feels Good? (not this)I recently got into a very, very bad mood that dragged on for what seemed like forever, draining all the energy I needed to be functional. The stresses in my life were magnified to the point that they eclipsed every bit of joy and wonder I had. I was very sad, to say the least, and it didn’t feel good.

I have a cherished belief: I believe that times like these are rich opportunities for transformation.  “The wound is the place the light enters you”, is my favorite quote by Rumi and a message I often share with clients and friends. However, in this case I found myself wondering if the light would ever come, and if, in fact, this cherished belief might be false. None of my tried and true self-care tricks helped much, other than to give me a few hours of emotional neutrality in contrast to the debilitating doom and gloom that had become the norm.

What was most disturbing to me was that my central spiritual practice, being mindfully aware of feelings and sensations,  which had always led me to insight, resolution, and eventually peace and happiness,  seemed to just make matters worse. No matter how long I was “with” my feelings, I was simply sinking deeper and deeper into a pit of despair and hopelessness . More and more frequently, uncontrollable crying was leaving me exhausted, sleepless and with a raging headache.

Looking back I can see how I had become inextricably trapped by all my negative thoughts. Thoughts that quite reasonably and rationally explained and justified my stress, overwhelm and, in all likelihood, looming depression. The truth is I’ve been in middle of a monumental transition since last November, when I found out I was pregnant (a miraculous wish come true!) and at the same time was facing total financial upheaval due to loss of employment in my household, my healing arts practice moving and expanding, and the uncertain and risky launch of another home-based business.

For months, I felt angry, resentful and sad that the blissful excitement of having a precious little baby growing inside me was being overshadowed by these uninvited growing pains, instability and uncertainty.  On top of all that, like many of us, I was watching in utter horror  as the political curtain was slowly drawn back, revealing the ugly corruption and hate that had been lurking just beneath the surface for so long.  Yes, I had every reason to feel as I did. But that doesn’t mean it was good for me or my baby, or that I should just stay feeling that way.

In desperation I reached out on my personal Facebook page. “What do you do when negative thinking takes over and it becomes increasingly difficult to feel or see anything positive?” I received 37 comments that day and every single one of them inspired me one step at a time until I finally had  the following thought:

Ok. I am ready to feel good now.

But then I had to figure out:

What feels good?

See, my life had been revolving around a different question, a question that always included the words should and do. What should I do about our financial situation? What should I do about morning sickness? What should I do to find more money? To find more clients? About those bills? And so on.  I had come to believe that I would feel good again when my situation changed. When my morning sickness went away, when the bills were paid, when my husband found a job, when the finances stabilized.  But the situation wasn’t changing.

I realized that I needed to stop doing what I should do to change my situation and just do what feels good. 

It didn’t take me long to figure out where to start. Since I can remember, I’ve wanted to be a mother. My early childhood was spent reading midwifery books, attending home births with my mom,  taking care of my baby brothers and day dreaming about the day I would have my own baby. By the time I finally got pregnant at age 41 I had all but given up on the possibility of my dream coming true, but here it was happening.

When I stopped doing  and started just  focusing on what was absolutely great, our new baby, I heard my inner voice say: Just stop. Stop doing anything that doesn’t feel good. So I listened. As hard as it was for me to stop trying to change my situation, I just did what felt good to me.

First I made a list of some things I could start collecting for the baby, and started clearing space for the things I would find. That led to a car load of stuff ready to go to Goodwill, which led to rearranging the house, which led to dumping the ugly old couch I’d been complaining about for months and, within a few hours, finding a really great one for almost nothing on a yard sale site. I planned a week off to to take a break from doing errands and seeing clients. What a relief.

All of this felt good. And led to more feeling good. My mood began to lift.  Over the next week I was delighted with lovely little gifts everywhere I turned. Adorable baby clothes, a rocking chair, support and cooperation from my husband, friends coming out of the woodwork to walk and talk with.

I began to feel great, despite the fact that my situation didn’t change.

And then it did! The phone began to ring. New clients scheduled.  I received a completely random check in the mail. Our new business prospects suddenly looked more promising. I got inspired by my work and by my amazing clients.

I share this with you because chances are you’ve had a similar experience at some point, or perhaps you are in one right now.  Even those of us who feel healthy in our bodies, happy in our relationships and secure in our jobs can’t help but be influenced by the constant barrage of disturbing news, if we tune in at all to the media.  And even if we unplug completely, many of us are certainly sensitive enough to be deeply affected by the chaotic energies of the current times. I’ve heard  business is booming for psychotherapists,  and many of my bodywork clients are needing treatment for acute emotional and spiritual upheaval. It is an undeniably stressful and frightening time, and there is little chance of that changing anytime soon. But that doesn’t mean we should feel terrible until it does.

I still cherish my belief that transformation often involves a period of pain and suffering, and absolutely still believe in the powerful practice of “being with what is”,  and yet at the same time I’ve learned a powerful lesson about how important it is to know what feels good and to actively choose that.

If you are currently struggling as I was, my advice to you is to begin to recognize what is beautiful and joyous in your life and use that as a catapult to feel better, if feeling better is what you want to do. Because after all, as I learned, sometimes feeling good is what will change your situation.

CranioSacral Therapy for children and Youth

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Supporting the whole Family

CranioSacral Therapy for Children and Youth

Some of the most touching and moving experiences I’ve had as a bodyworker have been practicing CranioSacral Therapy for children and youth in Auburn, CA. I will never forget seeing one young person who has autism reach up and gently touch my colleagues face in appreciation of of the work he was receiving.

Growing up isn’t easy for kids. Constant changes in their physical, mental & spiritual worlds can be disorienting and uncomfortable, leading to physical and behavioral difficulties. Bodywork can help kids adjust to the constant transitions of growth, as well as many common ailments including anxiety, growing pains, and even more serious conditions. We’ve treated youth with Autism, ADHD, anxiety and depression, growing pains and injuries. What is CranioSacral Therapy?

We are happy to schedule children over 9 years old at this time.  Call us for a free consultation and to schedule: 530-906-8668